Nice post Helen Reddy.
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From: Meredith And Kenny <meredithandkenny@yahoo.com>
To: vpFREE@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wed, February 9, 2011 7:27:25 PM
Subject: Re: [vpFREE] Re: FK, Killing the Pink Elephant/ PETER
This is LONG People that are out of time ,,,However, I felt that this post is
suppose to be for someone on the group yet, it is a reply to Peter ....but, if
you don't have time, it's not meant for you anyway and I don't care if you read
it or not.
My honest opinions..as good habits die hard..
No Clue about even considering 'concise' writing when it comes to
personal feelings or posting in a relaxed, conversational manner.
It's such a relief to take my breaks in having the chance to not care,
from what I've had to do meticulously for so many years in business..
in groups or emailing friends, where it doesn't Have to be judged
(although I do understand your shield of defense, I do not condone it
since I know that in my life,it wasn't workin' for me) as Dr.Phil would
say.
And especially here from the numerous grammatical errors occur daily
& so what ? am I held to another standard in your Mind, Peter ?
not in my personal enjoyment of chilling out for a wonderful change. I
used to be everyone's English teacher or rather, the annoying young lady
that got irritated by the things in life that are REALLY of NO
importance in the grand scheme of things.
I had many friends that were very grateful that I quit sweatin' the small
stuff...No Big Aha Moment There.
I have been a volunteer in Life Coaching and I had two people that I
decided to help and they both enjoyed life changes that they maintain as
I speak with them often. I've been the Extra Mom for many every since I
took a in battered Teen that has called me Mom every since (with NO
government pay, just the consent in writing through the police that they
obtained from the parents that I had all rights as far as her medical,
etc.,) were concerned. That's another LONG story Peter P E. hehe, I know
you've been teased with that name before so, it was not intended to be
mean, but, to simply try to pull a smile out of you.
In wanting to reach a larger audience, I have a Private (due to the
nature of content) Yahoo Group to Help Women realize their intrinsic
Value, along with de-coding the lies that women have been fed and have
believed for too long.
Around 2002-2003.. my expertise in writing ads is what afforded us the
luxuries that most people do not see in a life time as well as chosen
for my ad writing skills, being one of the Top 5 Power Sellers on eBay
to give advice in a How to sell jewelry on eBay. Not a Bragg, because we
all have certain gifts and talents and when we can use something that
we have a Passion to make a Fabulous Living, then, that is a Success
alone. Another long story, going from homeless, living in a van, home
schooling, for 9 months total and the first 3, the girls were visiting
my mother and my son, stayed with his Dad...to renting a small trailer
in FL and in less than 11 months, having $36k to place down on a
Beautiful Home a few doors down from Ted Williams (baseball) in a golf
community and topping $250k in our 2nd year and so on.........(kept it
concise for your brain to gather the points and connect the dots in
guessing about the details if it holds any value to you, I mean success
stories of other).
I've been praised for my creative writing skills by New friends from
this group (due to ugly replies and directly encouraging me) that find
those who have been combative in this subject as a 'common' example of
why they never post as they just don't want the negative input as you
can feel it as thick as mud by the one's that feel the need to
'testosterize' everything, called the one up-man-ship game of those
seeking to fill that void place due to stinkin- thinkin...(LOL !! yea, I
just made that word up) and instead they'd when they can be with
others that have made the same right choices to live longer without all
of the heart attack waiting to happen, stressful thinking. (these new
friends have arisen from this post and I am elated to have some new
friends that do not feel
intimidated or defensive of the truth as they are too have chosen to
live truthfully).
Thankfully, a 1st opinion came in before your unproductive post, unless
you can actually glean from something or learn. They complimented my
writing skills which I appreciated very much.
I think they were openly kind hearted after seeing the true heart of me
for myself and true intent. It's always great to be 'seen' through
realities eyes. Their account of the post greatly differs from the
pitied empty responses.
Friends are those that charge your battery, even when they are being
honest about helping you in an area of opportunity for growth and those
that drain your battery are in need of help but, not what anyone can
call friend.
I've seen 100's of MINI NOVELS come through this group without the nit
picking that you defensively jumped on...., for a lack of any other
insult or creativity, it doesn't matter anyway..hehe,.
Personally, I have enjoyed and wanted to have a discussion of the Great Things
like the account of winnings.
See, I have no bitterness or jealousy. I have seen first hand what kind
of results these patterns produce, along with not wanting to even
entertain such ugliness as the posts as the most outwardly attractive
person in the world can be disgustingly ugly when THEY make that CHOICE.
It is all choices, one at a time that either disintegrates your value
or enriches your life.
None of your nasty replies move me. Because, I can clearly see through
the words to the root of the issue. It's all the same however, your
stubborn defensive displays are a veil or a covering, like a mask that
you put on, in order to justify yourself in your mind, while not having
the courage to actually dig inside, AFRAID OF WHAT YOU MIGHT SEE ?
I'm not afraid at all, in place of fear, I am graciously happy to see
the distance of that road behind and at the same time, enjoying the now,
along with excitement and elation for the future (and this is the area
that I enjoy being a child is in the areas of wonder and still giggling)
and several members here that have internal fortitude and integrity to
actually admit their actions or inaction's and the HONORABLE humility to
take a truthful look at themselves, that I have come to feel a kindred
spirit and Respect for their Honesty today and some have said that they
had been on the defensive 'mode' for many years in the past, like I was
in my 20's..when I was in great denial of the truth about those negative
patterns that I found my self entrapped in, like a cocoon that was
about to burst with such tremendous stress but, in order to validate my
value, I'd stick to the defensive auto response,
It took me many years to realize that this position was very unhealthy
to myself and others. I broke the cycle as every one that achieves True
fulfillment after genuinely having Courage to look at myself Truthfully
no matter how ugly or ashamed I was to even have these cowardly things
clinging to me by MY OWN personal Choices.
I was desperate to change and BE the person that I would admire, if I
were in someone else's shoes...I didn't want to get comfortable in such a
dishonorable (for me) person that always saw things and spoke in the
patterns/habits, I wanted to be honorable, respectful and fill myself
with anything it would take to be that Dynamic Meredith that had all of
the makings of just that inside.
I had to relearn what was productive and I did everything that I could
actively do in order to change myself and it takes a long time to Make
that change that completely turned into a Filled to the Brim and running
over for others to benefit as well Admirable Person that I deserved to
become by simply Making a conscious CHOICE to change and to make sure
that it was on a Solid foundation, I made the changes slow and
methodically as I KNOW that old habits die hard however, all that I
needed was a few learning tools that I obtained & no, Dale Carnegie
was not my teacher..hehe,
THE hardest part was the First step to trepidly FACE the TRUTH in Every
area of my life and learning the reasons that caused my Insecurity by
example : always feeling the Need of spewing out, mean and indignant
instant 'reactions of defense' to anyone that my delusional feeling
attacked or intimidated by and it was so hard because it was like an old
familiar friend that Becomes Comfortable in the way that they are and
sheer ignorance in seeing the benefits of The Work that was necessary to
change..
I decided that I have one life to live, it would benefit my 3 kiddos, as
I was a single mother for many years while they were all little and I
owned my own business yet, I didn't like being that giver of negativism
and since I had taken Psychology courses for a few years, as I could
with 3 children, I had some knowledge but, I needed more since, at the
time (23yrs old) I started therapy to get wisdom and guidance in Methods
of letting go or working through old tapes and replace them with New
since the Old Tapes will be in my book about how far you can come from
being as low as can be in Self Esteem and the reasons started early YET,
my habits and patterns of negativity just fed the old tapes, turned the
volume up and danced all of me,..funny way to say it but, It's True .
I learned that the fearless Look at Yourself, Then, The choice to change
was something that I'll always be Glad that I did and following these
painful yet Necessary two steps, the words and actions became easier and
easier because the chemical reaction of saying and doing things to
others, that would come easy for your daughters, mothers, etc.,
Re-Read the first Post :
What if your Mother posted what I wrote in my first post, or your daughter ?
In the Light of the post coming from your daughter or mother, Would you
'respond kindly' or..... would you stubbornly hold on to your defense
mechanism and sink even further away from becoming someone that you
could be proud to know ?
Have a Good Day...for a Gamblin' we will go after while,
~ ¤(¯`*•.¸(¯`*•.¸ Meredith ¸.•*´¯)¸.•*´¯)¤ ~
TGIF- Thank God I'm Female!
--- On Wed, 2/9/11, Peter M. <midnight1626@gmail.com> wrote:
From: Peter M. <midnight1626@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: [vpFREE] Re: FK, Killing the Golden Deuce/plus VIP address to the
entire Group
To: vpFREE@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, February 9, 2011, 9:55 PM
> "ukstages" - you're such a charming man with manners and class, that
even
> ole Dale Carnegie might be green with envy.
Did any of Dale's books teach people how to write concisely?
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